Your wedding day: one of the most memorable days of your life, filled with love, as you’re surrounded by the people you love most in the world! However, amidst the excitement and joy of the day, navigating family dynamics can be stressful and challenging. Sometimes there are family members or even close friends that have complicated histories or stories with other family members or friends, and this can create issues when it comes to group pictures. As a seasoned wedding photographer here in Birmingham, AL, I have worked with families of all shapes and sizes and learned how to navigate these challenges with grace. Here are some things to consider as you plan for smooth sailing on your big day:
Preparation is key: Before the wedding day approaches, I always send out a detailed questionnaire to the couple. This questionnaire serves as a crucial tool for understanding family dynamics and gathering essential information about the desired group shots. By asking specific questions about family relationships and dynamics, I can anticipate any potential challenges and plan accordingly. It also helps me get to know you and your partner better, and learn more about your lives. I always keep this information private and only use this to help facilitate an easy and joyful group photo dynamic.
Communicate clearly: Effective communication is vital when it comes to managing group photos. I make sure to discuss the wedding day timeline and photo schedule with the couple well in advance. Clearly outlining the expectations and providing guidance on where and when group photos will take place helps to minimize confusion and ensure everyone is on the same page. On the day-of, I also work hand-in-hand with your wedding coordinator or point of contact (see below) so that you (the bride and groom) are not bothered or disrupted.
Designate a point of contact: Having a designated point of contact from each side of the family can streamline the process of organizing group photos. This person can help gather family members, communicate any last-minute changes, and assist in keeping everyone organized and focused during the photo sessions. Please be mindful when choosing this family member and look for someone calm under pressure, and who is a confident and kind leader. In the past, brides have appointed bridesmaids, siblings, or aunts.
Prioritize your must-have shots: With the help of my trusty questionnaire, I work closely with you to identify the photos you want to emphasize. Whether it’s capturing generations of family members or honoring special relationships, prioritizing these shots ensures that no important moments are missed. I also advise the couple to keep the list concise to avoid overwhelming themselves and their families. If you aren’t sure what groupings you may want, I can also help suggest heirloom portraits that brides have loved in the past. Don’t forget to let me know if you are carrying or wearing something special (such as a brooch, piece of jewerly, or photo from a loved one who has passed on) so that I can include that in your must-have moments.
Focus on love and unity: It is often helpful for couples to send a text or email to their extended family before the celebration to help set clear boundaries and expectations in a positive way. Some things you might include in this text are if you want a device-free ceremony, who might be included in family group photos (and when those might be), and how thankful you are they are part of your big day. Overall, make the tone grateful and positive, and focus on the celebration.
People can be unpredictable. Despite the best planning, tensions can and do arise on wedding days, but I am equipped to handle anything that comes my way. I work carefully with every couple I photograph to smooth out any of these issues long before your big day arrives. I love what I do, and work hard to cultivate a day where everyone is drama-free! Let me know if you have questions or concerns, and let’s get started today!